Thursday, March 18, 2010
NOTHING IS MORE IMPORTANT THAN THE SALE & THE TARGET AUDIENCE
This shall be your mantra from hence forth...
My Work is Important, Dammit!
How important your work is in the scope of the organisation, should be self-given. Others who are only looking in may be unaware of your responsibilities and the skill that is required to do your kind of work. So when people fail to understand, DO NOT let that affect you. Stand firm, be gracious, allow them room to learn in their own time, but BELIEVE in yourself.
You know, YOU KNOW, for a fact that what you do is important. What you do can persuade, change minds, shape new beliefs and seal deals. And what you know, is all that matters. Don't ever doubt yourself, stay strong and work hard towards your goal.
Hey, words sell, okay? You just make things look pretty.
You know, YOU KNOW, for a fact that what you do is important. What you do can persuade, change minds, shape new beliefs and seal deals. And what you know, is all that matters. Don't ever doubt yourself, stay strong and work hard towards your goal.
Hey, words sell, okay? You just make things look pretty.
What to do when you can't get along with your boss
What do you do when sparks fly every time you come in contact with your boss? And not in a good way. You just seem to rub each other in the wrong way all the time, even over trifling things.
1) Be open about each others views
The older we get, the more stuck we are in our beliefs and opinions. And that's why it gets harder to accept each others views. But working together smoothly means having to listen to each others ideas, opinions and concerns, and being able to come to a solution that makes everyone happy. Especially the client (we tend to forget that sometimes!).
So the next time you feel like shooting down an idea/opinion, remember to take a step back, understand where he's coming from, then voice your concern. But speak up only when there's a reason to, don't do it just to make your presence felt. Also remember one important thing. He is the boss, not you!
2) Remember that he is human
Just because he's the boss, doesn't mean he is automatically endowed with power to solve everything and be the master of the universe! He's human. He makes mistakes, he has an ego and he has his own insecurities about his capabilities too. So don't be judgmental. If you think you're better than him, then do his job! But if you can't do even 50% of what he can, then don't even start.
3) Don't be afraid to speak up
People value opinions because constructive opinions can improve an idea. But only if it's constructive. If you have a valid opinion, speak up and your boss will value your input. In time, will come respect.
Never be afraid to speak up because that will hinder your own growth and learning process. It also contributes nothing to your work.
4) Be honest and direct
When you are honest about your objectives, there is nothing to fear about what you say or do. It is usually out of guilt and dishonesty that fear arises. E.g. not finishing your work on time, missing deadlines and then blaming your boss for bad management.
5) Never worry about what your colleagues think even though you know they are listening in
You hang out with them, eat lunch with them, but remember, your career is your priority. And your boss is who you answer to. Colleagues make you feel accepted, but it is only when you excel at your job that you will gain self-satisfaction as well as respect from your work-mates.
At the end of the day, it is you whom you need to face when it comes to what you have achieved in life. So 5 years from now, do you want to be someone who says and does something that you believe is right, or a puppet, who speaks and does things to gain acceptance from others?
6) Your boss probably wants to get along with you too
If he's the one who interviewed you before you were hired, it means he saw something in you when you met. He saw in you a person he could work well with. If things don't work out, he would likely be disappointed at himself for having made a wrong decision then.
Try your best to be a team-player. Not the one who deliberately goes against the grain. That will not help the already strained relationship.
7) Allow yourself to fall back and take a breather
There will be times when you feel like you're finally giving up. Maybe you had a bad day, he had a rotten one, someone played a song you both hate, the scorching heat fried your tempers, or the stars were just all wrong, and you clashed. You want to give up, throw in the towel...
Take the day off. So, you won't win Ms Perfect Employee of the year. But you do what gets you through in the long run. Fall 'sick' and take the day off to reflect, recharge and come back with a vengeance.. to reconcile, of course. This time, you know better and things will get better.
8) You are allowed to not get things right the first time round
This applies to everything. The trick is to not give up and try again. Till you get it right.
9) Look within yourself and ask, "What is it about me I can improve?"
Everybody has their own little idiosyncrasies. You can't change others but you can change your own. So if you can, change yours. Or at least, manage it. Personally, I need to work on being less sensitive to criticism, being less judgmental and being a team-player. Also, learning to give a shit about other people. Give a shit, dammit!
10) And lastly, GET A LIFE!
Work is not the only thing in your life. It is part of your life. It is what you do to pay the bills. If your soul isn't getting fed enough, well, get that done in church! Don't bring that shit into the workplace! And don't expect your job to be the answer to life's problems.
So pick up a hobby, find a partner or a f*ckbuddy and complete what you need to keep yourself satisfied, happy and sane. Life is far, FAR larger than your job. Take a step back, take a deep breath and you'll see that you were worrying over nothing after all.
=) Have a great day at work!
1) Be open about each others views
The older we get, the more stuck we are in our beliefs and opinions. And that's why it gets harder to accept each others views. But working together smoothly means having to listen to each others ideas, opinions and concerns, and being able to come to a solution that makes everyone happy. Especially the client (we tend to forget that sometimes!).
So the next time you feel like shooting down an idea/opinion, remember to take a step back, understand where he's coming from, then voice your concern. But speak up only when there's a reason to, don't do it just to make your presence felt. Also remember one important thing. He is the boss, not you!
2) Remember that he is human
Just because he's the boss, doesn't mean he is automatically endowed with power to solve everything and be the master of the universe! He's human. He makes mistakes, he has an ego and he has his own insecurities about his capabilities too. So don't be judgmental. If you think you're better than him, then do his job! But if you can't do even 50% of what he can, then don't even start.
3) Don't be afraid to speak up
People value opinions because constructive opinions can improve an idea. But only if it's constructive. If you have a valid opinion, speak up and your boss will value your input. In time, will come respect.
Never be afraid to speak up because that will hinder your own growth and learning process. It also contributes nothing to your work.
4) Be honest and direct
When you are honest about your objectives, there is nothing to fear about what you say or do. It is usually out of guilt and dishonesty that fear arises. E.g. not finishing your work on time, missing deadlines and then blaming your boss for bad management.
5) Never worry about what your colleagues think even though you know they are listening in
You hang out with them, eat lunch with them, but remember, your career is your priority. And your boss is who you answer to. Colleagues make you feel accepted, but it is only when you excel at your job that you will gain self-satisfaction as well as respect from your work-mates.
At the end of the day, it is you whom you need to face when it comes to what you have achieved in life. So 5 years from now, do you want to be someone who says and does something that you believe is right, or a puppet, who speaks and does things to gain acceptance from others?
6) Your boss probably wants to get along with you too
If he's the one who interviewed you before you were hired, it means he saw something in you when you met. He saw in you a person he could work well with. If things don't work out, he would likely be disappointed at himself for having made a wrong decision then.
Try your best to be a team-player. Not the one who deliberately goes against the grain. That will not help the already strained relationship.
7) Allow yourself to fall back and take a breather
There will be times when you feel like you're finally giving up. Maybe you had a bad day, he had a rotten one, someone played a song you both hate, the scorching heat fried your tempers, or the stars were just all wrong, and you clashed. You want to give up, throw in the towel...
Take the day off. So, you won't win Ms Perfect Employee of the year. But you do what gets you through in the long run. Fall 'sick' and take the day off to reflect, recharge and come back with a vengeance.. to reconcile, of course. This time, you know better and things will get better.
8) You are allowed to not get things right the first time round
This applies to everything. The trick is to not give up and try again. Till you get it right.
9) Look within yourself and ask, "What is it about me I can improve?"
Everybody has their own little idiosyncrasies. You can't change others but you can change your own. So if you can, change yours. Or at least, manage it. Personally, I need to work on being less sensitive to criticism, being less judgmental and being a team-player. Also, learning to give a shit about other people. Give a shit, dammit!
10) And lastly, GET A LIFE!
Work is not the only thing in your life. It is part of your life. It is what you do to pay the bills. If your soul isn't getting fed enough, well, get that done in church! Don't bring that shit into the workplace! And don't expect your job to be the answer to life's problems.
So pick up a hobby, find a partner or a f*ckbuddy and complete what you need to keep yourself satisfied, happy and sane. Life is far, FAR larger than your job. Take a step back, take a deep breath and you'll see that you were worrying over nothing after all.
=) Have a great day at work!
What do you do when you have no work at work?
What can a person do at work when there's no work, and too much time to kill?
1) Facebook
Check on your crops, your cafe, your island... your kitchen sink, literally, and update your status for the tenth time that "I'm bored!=(((", and hopefully, your boss, who also happens to be your FB friend, will read it and get the hint.
2) Twitter
Same as FB, just transfer all your status updates here.
3) Read a book
At least you'll have continuous learning and your brain rots slower. And, it'll still keep you in management's 'good books' cos it makes you look hardworking and 'willing to learn'. That's if, it's worth your while to keep in management's good books. A management that gives you no work. Or has no work to give.
4) Take a long, slow walk to the pantry and refill your cup with water every 30 minutes
May as well keep your sagging arse in shape while you loaf.
5) Take a long dump in the loo
Constipated? Never fear. Nothing like sitting on the bowl for half an hour to cajole the cake out of your buns. Better than sitting like a lump at your desk, with toxins in your body.
6) Sneak downstairs for a teh tarik with your buddies
And trash talk your company for having NO WORK.
7) Or just shut up and be happy your company's paying for your car, your daily three meals and your new flower vintage top
Yeah, and do some free lance since you're so free, ya lazy bum!
I used to complain I had too much work. Now I bitch when I have none. I can be such a bitch.
1) Facebook
Check on your crops, your cafe, your island... your kitchen sink, literally, and update your status for the tenth time that "I'm bored!=(((", and hopefully, your boss, who also happens to be your FB friend, will read it and get the hint.
2) Twitter
Same as FB, just transfer all your status updates here.
3) Read a book
At least you'll have continuous learning and your brain rots slower. And, it'll still keep you in management's 'good books' cos it makes you look hardworking and 'willing to learn'. That's if, it's worth your while to keep in management's good books. A management that gives you no work. Or has no work to give.
4) Take a long, slow walk to the pantry and refill your cup with water every 30 minutes
May as well keep your sagging arse in shape while you loaf.
5) Take a long dump in the loo
Constipated? Never fear. Nothing like sitting on the bowl for half an hour to cajole the cake out of your buns. Better than sitting like a lump at your desk, with toxins in your body.
6) Sneak downstairs for a teh tarik with your buddies
And trash talk your company for having NO WORK.
7) Or just shut up and be happy your company's paying for your car, your daily three meals and your new flower vintage top
Yeah, and do some free lance since you're so free, ya lazy bum!
I used to complain I had too much work. Now I bitch when I have none. I can be such a bitch.
Friday, March 05, 2010
Finally
There might have been a time,
I would give myself away,
Once upon a time,
I didn't give a damn.
I finally feel beautiful
Finally, I love myself
Finally, I believe in myself
Finally, I can live my life
I finally can be happy
Truly
I would give myself away,
Once upon a time,
I didn't give a damn.
I finally feel beautiful
Finally, I love myself
Finally, I believe in myself
Finally, I can live my life
I finally can be happy
Truly
Monday, March 01, 2010
True Beauty Comes From Within
You can change the clothes you wear, chop all your hair off, dye it red, get a complete makeover from M.A.C. or go for a 5 mile run, but real change must come from within. When you are healed completely inside and weakness turns to strength, that strength will shine outwards. And then you realise, true beauty is not physical or superficial, but something you just feel deep inside you.
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